Taking The Road Less Traveled

Unless you’re very lucky, your friends and family won’t understand.

When you tell them you’re thinking about moving to a new country for your retirement, their responses likely will range from bemusement to shock and horror.

They’ll think you’ve lost your grounding and are over-indulging in fantasy…

Or that you’ve flat out lost your mind.

My family still doesn’t get it.

As I share in my memoir “At Home In Ireland,” when I announced 26 years ago that I was making plans to relocate from the East Coast of the United States to the southeast coast of Ireland, they humored me at first by saying nothing.

Then, when it became clear that the planning stage was moving into the moving stage, they got vocal. My mother cried. My sister wondered if a move like this could possibly be in the best interest of her niece (my 8-year-old daughter Kaitlin).

My aunt asked how I could be so heartless as to take my mother and father’s grandchild so far away from them.

Our first year in Ireland, we heard little from my family. Then I became pregnant with my second child, Jackson, and my mother and father put their misgivings about our international relocation aside and finally came to visit.

Years later, when I called my mother to tell her we intended to move again, this time from Waterford, Ireland, to Paris, France, she responded at first, again, with silence.

Then, after an awkward pause, “Don’t the French hate Americans?”

Many phone calls and months later, my mom finally came to visit. The morning we escorted her to the airport for her return flight to the States after she’d spent 10 days with us in Paris, she turned and said, “I was wrong not to have come sooner. You’re right. The French are fine, and this city is beautiful.”

Then, four years later, we were at it again…

“Mom, we’re moving to Panama!” I called to exclaim one morning.

Silence.

Followed by… “But I thought you loved Paris? Why would you move again now? Where will Jack go to school? Isn’t it miserably hot in Panama? What about your lovely apartment in Paris? You’re not going to give that up, are you?”

Lief and I are on a different track from many, and we long ago gave up on the idea that everyone would understand. The lifestyle we’ve chosen doesn’t have to make sense to everyone else. It makes sense to us.

This is the point you’ll need to get to. Don’t expect your parents or your kids… your workmates or your old college friends… your siblings or your dry cleaner to endorse or validate your plan to reinvent your life in a foreign country.

I didn’t invent that last example. That came from an attendee at a recent conference… who admitted she’d almost reconsidered the move to Portugal she’d long been dreaming of and planning for because her dry cleaner thought the idea was ridiculous.

Why in the world would you want to leave everything familiar… your family and friends, all things comfortable and secure… to start over somewhere new?

That’s what most everyone you share your news with will wonder.

Your answers to that question are likely many, for the benefits of spending even some of your time in a foreign locale are great. You can reduce your cost of living, sure, but that’s only the beginning of the story.

The real advantages to internationalizing your lifestyle are less practical. Living in a foreign country, all or even just part of the time, your life becomes fuller and richer in ways you likely couldn’t predict right now.

You’ll be embracing a bold adventure filled with the unexpected… that your dry cleaner doesn’t need to support.

This only needs to make sense to you.

Until next time,

Kathleen Peddicord
Founding Publisher, Overseas Opportunity Letter